Tuesday, 29 January 2013

It's a comfort thing...

Not my sofa, picture courtesy of internet

My little grandson A ended up in A&E last night.He had cut his foot and the wound needed stitching.A traumatic experience for him and his parents but as he lay there sedated, bless him, he had his toy monkey Nanas with him for comfort. All my grandchildren have their favourite cuddly toys, M has her dogs and cats, A has his cuddly snowman Frosty and bulldog Toby, E, of course has her snakes (all named either Jack or Sally) and little O has her monkey. My sons both had their own favourite cuddly toys, C had his dog, Dep (named after Deputy dog, a cartoon he used to watch when he was little) handmade by his Auntie and M had a bear, George.These toys were so precious, neither would go to bed without them and we could rarely go on an outing without them. A very dangerous thing to do with hindsight, the consequence of losing them doesn't bear thinking about.Thankfully we never actually lost either of them but came close on a couple of occasions.
My late brother David had a teddy bear he named Basil. Basil wasn't a 'posh' bear, he didn't have moveable limbs and was stuffed with sawdust but he was bought for David when he was sent away to a boarding school for 'delicate' children in the 60's. David was a severe asthmatic and living as we did in a mining village,  where most of the houses burned coal, the air quality must have been very poor and he had one asthma attack after another. Asthma can still be extremely serious nowadays if it's poorly controlled but back then the treatments were nowhere near as effective. The doctors and my parents agreed to let David go to a state funded residential boarding school in Ingleborough, North Yorkshire where it was thought then that the clean air would provide some respite or even cure his asthma. I know my parents feel guilty to this day for 'sending him away' but they did it with the best of intentions and David was well when he was away but relapsed each time he came home at the end of terms. Naturally, he missed us, his sister and brothers and parents and Basil was bought as a comfort for him.He loved that bear and even to the day he died Basil was never far away.If only Basil could talk.I wonder what secrets he would have kept all these years? To this day Basil is still somewhere at my parents house and I will give him a good home when we come across him again.
I remember well how much my boys loved their toys. I still have them in my keeping and the mere sight of them brings back lots of lovely memories.
I often read your blogs and see old cuddly toys being 'rescued' and given a new lease of life and wonder who would have pre-loved them and cared for them. Am I the only one sentimental enough to never want to part with such treasured things? One of the blogs I love to read is 'Fading Grace', Sophie often writes about old toys and it's a joy to read how much she loves them. If you haven't read her blog, you are missing a treat.
I wonder why some children find an instant and lasting bond with one cuddly toy in particular?
Have any of you still got your precious childhood cuddlies? Would you ever part with them?

38 comments:

  1. Pinky and Snowy my teddy bears.
    Snowy was a gift when I was born,Pinky I chose myself when I was a toddler. Pinky is my favourite,he has such character! Part with them? Never!
    Jane x
    Hope the little one is all better now.

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    1. Hi Jane, thanks for the comment.A is on the mend, I saw him yesterday and it didnt seem to be bothering him too much!

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  2. What a lovely post Anne! I did have such toys. I had a lovely Raggidy Ann that my Grandmother made for me and a Cookie Monster that I took everywhere. We moved a lot when I was a kid and on one of those moves, I left my treasured toys in the hotel room. We were only an hour down the road and my parents stopped and called the hotel to have them shipped to our new destination. They said they didn't find them in the room so either the cleaning lady stole them or they were thrown away and they didn't want to tell my parents since I was so frantic. I cried for days and days. My grandmother eventually made me another doll but I never replaced my Cookie Monster. I still have that doll packed away in a safe place. She's over 30 yrs old now. My daugther's have booth had lambs. The oldest's was given to her by her paternal grandmother. She loved that little thing so much and so well and didn't give it up until she was 8-9. I have it packed away for her. The youngest's was given to her by a friend of mine and she loves it. She still keeps it and you will see her playing with it or carrying it around or holding it when she is sick. She will be 11 this year. Thank you for sharing your stories, they make me remember all the beloved toys I've had over the years.

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    1. You are welcome and thank you for the lovely comments.

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  3. I had Pinky and Growly (he growled) when I was young and still have them. They're in the loft, but I wouldn't be devastated if they were lost. Daniel never really took to soft toys, he had a face cloth (raggety) but, thankfully, got rid of it when he was very young. Eleanor loved Teletubbies, especially Po. We went to Barbados when Eleanor was eight. She left her toy Po in the hotel room and she wasn't there when we returned. I think she may have been taken out with the laundry, and I cried for days. It ruined my holiday. I know it's just a bit of stuffed material, but Eleanor was devastated and it upset me so much. At the airport on the way out she had bought a bulldog with some money my mum and dad had given her for her holiday. It fastens up with velcro and opens out in to a cushion. She named him Chester, and this is the only thing which got her over losing Po. She still sleeps with Chester now, and she's fifteen this year. Goodness, that was a long comment. Also wanted to say how awful asthma is. I had it as a child but have, thankfully, grown out of it. Our next door neighbour at our old house died of an asthma attack. She'd never suffered from it in her life, but it just came on one night and she died. It's a terrible thing.

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    1. HI Jo, thanks for your lovely comments.Its amazing isnt it how we as parents would probably be more upset than the kids at losing something precious.I think its the memories built in for us. Little A is on the mend.Stitches out in 5 days!

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  4. Anne, I'm so sorry, I forgot to ask after A, I hope he's ok now. It's always scary for little ones in A&E, but so scary for parents too.

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  5. I have my eldest sons paddington bear his Gran knit. I remember her going into Mothercare to buy the smallest pair of red wellies to finish him off. Some day I will pass him on.
    Hope A is Ok.

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    1. Oh how lovely! I wouldnt have thought of buying some little wellies to finish him off.I bet your son loved him.

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  6. I do hope your grandson is on the mend. It's awful when you watch little ones in pain. Thank you for sharing your memories of your brother and so sorry to hear of his premature passing. My son had two cuddly toys as a child, Ted and Dog - not very imaginative I know but he loved them and they went everywhere with him. He's 37 now and married with three children but he told me the other day that he still has them somewhere in the attic.
    Patricia x

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    1. Thank you Patricia. Im glad your son has still got his cuddly toys! I took charge of my sons two favourites because I was worried they might end up throwing them out!

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  7. My DD still has Teddy and she's 24 and I still have my Panda and I'm ..... older!
    Love from Mum
    xx

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    1. Funnily enough mum I wasnt really into cuddly toys myself, I was into my dolls (which I still have of course).

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  8. I hope your grandson's ok now. When I saw the photo I thought you'd been overtaken by teddies. I still have three of mine. Can't bear to part with them he he. I hope your also fully recovered now.
    Ali x

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    1. HI Ali, I think my youngest sons sofa could possibly be like that if they put all their kids cuddlies on there!
      I still dont feel 100% but am getting there.Back at work anyhow.Thanks for asking.

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  9. Poor little baby I do hope he is on the mend bless him give him a hug from me.I have a lovely teddy that hubby bought me when he was working off shore in china 31yrs ago,he was bought to keep me company while hubby was away I used to talk to him,funny I still do tell him my problems,teddy as well as hubby.Love Jill xxx

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  10. I have my Teddie bear that my Father gave me the day I was born sill sits on my bed, my son was given all lovely teddies but he found a old stinky bear at play group love love that bear till this day.

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    1. Its strange isnt it what makes one toy stand out as special.

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  11. Both of my children have a teddy bear that is special. When we go away they have to come too! I always
    panic in case we loose them. My children are 24 and 15......
    Rosezeeta.

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    1. I think we all feel the same dont we, whether our children are 4/5 or 24/15!

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  12. Love love love this post, Anne :)
    I still have my old teddy bear. I loved him very much when I was a little girl, and I think it is nice that he is still here. Would never give him away. My husband has his old teddy too.

    Hope your little grandson is better now!!

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    1. He is much perkier Hilde. Maybe we could all do a show and tell of our childhood teddies?

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  13. I still have my old teddy bear - he's a red panda really, not much to look at, after all he's over 40 years old but as soon as KP saw him when my mum brought him to ours on a visit, she won't go to sleep unless he's on her bed. Hope all is well with your grandson.
    June

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    1. Another precious toy, KP obviously loves him as much as you did.I think the worse condition they appear to be in the more they have been loved.

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  14. So sweet. Hope your grandson is doing better.

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    1. Thank you Jen! We just have to face the trauma of having the stitches out in a few days now.X

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  15. Hope you grandson is better and the cut is healing. I had lots of toys growing up but nothing that I remember being that "one" special toy, except maybe the "Tiny Tears" doll my grandmother bought me one Christmas. I don't know where she is now, but I do have a bear made at Build a Bear workshop by my niece and nephew when I was in the hospital 12 years ago. Theodore is always near and I dearly love him.

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    1. Thanks you Sharon. I am like you in that I preferred my dolls.I dont have a cuddly toy from my childhood, I must have had one but it didnt mean enough for me to keep it!

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  16. Aah! I hope that your little grandson is feling better.
    I loved reading about your family's old teddies.
    I had a teddy called Rolf. Well, I still have him! He came everywhere with me - until I was probably WAY too old to be carrying a teddy around!!! :-)
    Carly
    x

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  17. You could open your own store with that many plush toys. I don't remember having any but I remember playing with my cardboard dolls and putting paper clothes on them.

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  18. I hope your grandson is soon completely recovered. I collect teddy bears. My newest bear joined us in October. My oldest bears are just three weeks younger than me! Jx

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  19. Hi Anne. It's so sweet to see a little kid attached to a special toy. My son didn't have a toy he had a blanket. It was a handmade gift when he was born and he drug that thing everwhere. It was always so dirty and hard to get away from him long enough to wash it, so I cut it in half, then it went to 1/4 and finally down to one little piece. One day he lost it out the window on the freeway (didn't have to be in infant seats at that time) and no more blanket (Noni). He got over it finally. Thanks for your kind comments about the clouds. They are so beautiful. Hope your little grandson is on the road to recovery now. So hard to see them like that..Happy Wednesday..Judy

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  20. That is so poignant Anne
    xxxxxxxxx

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  21. Thank you for calling by at mine yesterday....the little knitted Westie is from one of Jean Greenhowe's knitting books. If you would like to email me your details to wipso@toucansurf.com I'd be happy to send you more details.
    Hugs,
    A x

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  22. Goodness that looks just like my eldest's bed years ago. One bear still retained and much loved. However youngest never bothered, different characters I suppose. Sorry to hear about A&E trip. Hope all on the mend now.

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